New York Times Best Selling Author Julie Lythcott-Haims provides a masterclass on parenting and dives deeper into her personal journey of self-acceptance: TWMM 032

Julie Lythcott-Haims is deeply interested in what prevents humans from thriving.

She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult, an anti-helicopter parenting manifesto which gave rise to one of the “Top TED Talks of 2016” with 2.5 million views and counting.

second book is the prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience with American racism and her journey toward self-acceptance.

She is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA from California College of the Arts.

She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of close to thirty years, their teenagers, and her mother.

Sneak Peek Into What You’ll Learn…

3:00 – Julie tells us more about her New York Times Best Selling book, How to Raise an Adult.

8:45 – Julie breaks down the question of when and how to “give your children more space” and discusses the importance of empowering your children to navigate their world on their own.

17:20 – Julie discusses the importance of equipping your children over time and finding opportunities for your children to have increasing levels of responsibility and autonomy.

20:36 – Should you let your kid get a C or a zero on an assignment because you didn’t remind them to do it or to turn it in? Julie says yes.

25:56 – Parents are often concerned that their kids won’t ultimately be successful and get into a great college without a lot of close support from them. Julie discusses a different way to think about it.

31:50 – Julie shares 3 robust pieces of advice for any parent of school-age kids.

37:45 – Julie explains her commitment to supporting young artists across the country and sharing her platform with them during her book tour for Real American: A Memoir.

39:28 – Julie discusses her new book, Real American: A Memoir, and the journey to self-love and acceptance that led to its creation.

46:13 – Julie shares the great epiphanies she’s had in writing Real American: A Memoir.

52:35 – Julie talks about her amazing career journey that led from being an attorney, to a Stanford administrator, and now a New York Times Best Selling author.

57:07 – Brass Tacks: The lightning round of concrete advice and tips.

Quotable quotes:

“From the minute they walk, they are walking away from us and we’re supposed to delight in that.”

“What we’ve supposed to be doing is trying to nurture in kids an intrinsic motivation to care about their future, to work hard toward the goals that they’ve set.”

“Often our encroachment over their homework and their lives is making them wither and withdraw. So, paradoxically, we have to back our energy off sometimes to make room for our kid to show up.”